Well, my dear, this is not something that is very simple to address in a short voice note. Marriage is very complex, and there are a lot of hidden variables that need to be considered and spoken about in detail. It's very good for you to seek proper counsel. All I can do in a short voice note is just give a few words that are meant to give a charge, right?

When we talk about meditation and how it can help in conflict resolution, I said in one of the earlier voice notes that what we can't see, we can't enter into. What we can't see, we can't labor for. One of the things the enemy does, especially with memories of pain that we have experienced in a particular place, is use that pain as a very strong argument in our hearts to rob us of hope.

And you see this thing called hope, when a person is hopeless, right? If, for example, I'm looking at my husband or my wife and hope has been taken away from me and I genuinely believe that nothing good can come here, while it looks cute to say, Oh, I'm so hopeless, I'm so hopeless, when we begin to act from hopelessness, there are some times where change can only happen if we act in accordance to a belief that this thing can be better.

For example, let's say I'm 300 pounds or 350 pounds, right? Someone who is that heavy will believe that I can never be slim, I can never have a six-pack, I can never have a waistline of 34 inches, and whatnot. When they have that hopelessness, what does it make them do? Say, ah, you know what? Let me eat my donuts now; let me just eat all my cake; let me drink Coke and Sprite because how can I ever lose weight? And the same applies to marriage. The seeds that need to be sown to produce a happy home, we no longer sow them because we don't believe there can ever be a harvest.

So even something as simple as waking up with a smile and saying, "Good morning, how are you? God bless you." We won't even do it because we believe, after all, there's no hope here. So we're not even smiling in the morning. Compliments will never come out of our mouths. We don't even say thank you, nothing. Anything, we just fight because we believe there's no hope here. And hopelessness makes us become, without us even knowing, monsters. And it looks cute, but it's not. And that's the intention of the enemy. Because once hope is taken away, we can no longer fight the good fight. Are you following me?

Peter had denied Jesus three times. But you see, it was not enough to take hope away from Jesus Christ. He resurrected. He found those men in the same place he picked them up from. They were fishing again. But he didn't lose hope. No, there was something that he saw. And he did not allow the foolishness of the present moment to deter him from that thing he saw. And so long as he could see that good future that God had presented ahead of him, he was willing to sow in the present moment to see it come to pass.

So a marriage is a garden that needs a lot of sowing. That needs a lot of watering and a lot of tending. But if we lose sight of the possibility of a time of bloom, we will not water that garden. We will not sow the seeds that need to be sown. And if we don't do that, how can that place become what we would like it to be? Are you following me?

So that's a little way that meditation can help in conflict resolution. You have to, first of all, believe that your home can be well. And dare to hold on to that image. Yes, there might be turmoil today; there might be conflict today; there might be pain today, but there is hope here; there is salvation here, and I'm going to invest in this present moment. Even though it's winter and nothing is green now, I will sow seeds in the dry season, believing that when light comes, the trees will grow.

That's a simple thing I'll say to you. Like I said, this thing needs counseling. All I can do is give a little impartation to give encouragement and strength to your heart. There are details that you need to work out with people who are very well-equipped to minister to you and your spouse. We see this thing called hope. Don't let the enemy take it away from you. Hope. Don't let the enemy take it away from you. It's the strength of every son of God.

I pray for you in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Where hope has been dashed, I pray that God begins to minister to your soul. And even to the soul of your spouse. The hope comes alive again. In the name of the Lord. And where there has been blindness. Light comes. Sight comes. Revelation comes. In the name of Jesus. In the name of Jesus. Amen. It is well with you, my friend. The best is yet to come. God bless you.